Sometimes, parting with a pet happens unexpectedly. Common causes include ingesting foreign objects, traffic accidents, or undetected illnesses that progressed unnoticed. In our case, it was the latter. During such times, pet owners often blame themselves. What can those around them do to help? Let’s explore this together.
Let Them Know No One Is Blaming Them
It’s natural for someone to feel responsible, but reminding them that no one is blaming them can lighten their burden.
It’s Often Only Themselves Who Feel Responsible
I recall a conversation with our veterinarian when I failed to notice my cat’s illness.
Me: “If only I had noticed earlier…”
Vet: “That might have been difficult.”
Animals often hide their illnesses from their owners. Being with them daily can make it harder to notice gradual changes. Often, it’s only the owner who feels at fault. Expressing this can offer some relief.
Convey That Their Pet Is Grateful in Heaven
Instead of dwelling on the pain, recalling joyful memories is essential. My wife once said:
“Marro was so loved. He must have been happy.”
Marro was a rescue cat. The shelter staff mentioned:
“A pet with an owner who mourns them is truly fortunate.”
Those words brought me immense comfort.
My Experience of Missing My Cat’s Illness
We have two rescue cats. One developed urinary stones. Initially, I noticed frequent and prolonged urination but dismissed it as increased water intake. Unaware of urinary stones, I didn’t act until I saw blood in the urine. The vet confirmed the presence of stones. Had we delayed further, it could have been fatal. Fortunately, medication sufficed. I regretted my lack of knowledge.
Had we lost him, I’d have blamed myself endlessly. Time might have healed some wounds, but memories would still bring tears.
Gifting Memorial Items
We craft memorial items from pet photos.
Many customers, while grieving, find solace in these gifts. They realize the depth of their love and begin to heal.
Customer Review:
The item arrived. Our child, who crossed the rainbow bridge at eight due to illness, has returned. It’s beautifully knitted, not just printed. I’m grateful for this wonderful product.
Another Customer:
After our beloved dog passed, the emptiness was overwhelming. We considered buying a similar plush toy but discovered ‘Vanderwan’ and ordered. The detailed design process was comforting. Now, the cushion sits where our dog used to, bringing us peace.
Writing Letters from the Pet’s Perspective
We offer personalized letters, sometimes written as if from the pet:
“Thank you for being with me. I was happy. I’ll never forget our playtimes and the treats on my birthday. Though I fell ill, it wasn’t your fault. I hid it from you. There’s no illness in heaven, so don’t worry. I’ll wait for you here. Let’s meet again.”
Such messages, penned by owners, can be therapeutic. Would you like to help someone heal with a heartfelt letter?
To Those Who Feel Responsible for Their Pet’s Death
Even with utmost care, it’s challenging to oversee every aspect of a pet’s life. Accidents happen. Cats, especially outdoor ones, might contract unknown illnesses. Animals often conceal their pain. Our dog, Mook, once limped, and we assumed it was minor. The vet later diagnosed bone cancer, noting the pain he must have endured.
Even if words don’t immediately comfort, know that pets don’t blame their owners. They cherish the love received and continue to love in return. In time, the pain lessens, replaced by fond memories.