Hello everyone,
This is Miasa from Knit My Pet jp on Etsy.
I work making pet memorial goods, so I often receive messages and consultations from customers who are struggling with pet loss.
And every now and then, some customer says something like this:
When I first heard that, it made me stop and reflect on my own experience.
It’s been four years since I lost my cat.
And yet, there are still days when I feel a deep loneliness, when I desperately wish I could see her again, or when I’m overwhelmed by guilt and regret that tightens my chest.
Even after four years, I realized I’m still living with pet loss.
Recently, I’ve heard more and more customers say things like:
These customers are not trying to force themselves to “get over” their loss.
Instead, they’re accepting their grief in a positive, compassionate way — without pushing themselves to heal quickly.
And most of all, they deeply cherish the time they shared with their beloved companions.
泣くのは悪い事ではないですよ
I recommend crying.
When I do this, my customers always say this to me.
My family tells me I shouldn’t cry forever.They also say that my pet in heaven will be sad.I tried my best with that in mind, but I was very happy when Mr. Miasa told me, “It’s okay to cry.” It was the first time that someone had said this to me, and it put my mind at ease.
I know it’s very difficult to hold back your tears when you’re sad.
When someone tell you not to cry, you might feel like your emotions are being rejected.
It’s appreciated when someone try to cheer you up, but please make sure you value your own feelings most.
The words that saved me
The cat I had was a rescue.
There was a time when I kept wondering if she had truly been happy.
And then someone from the shelter said this to me:
“For a pet, having someone who cries for them when they pass away — that’s true happiness.”
Those words brought me so much comfort.
When someone tells us that our pet was happy, there’s no greater reassurance for us as their owners.
If you’re crying right now, please know — those tears are proof that your pet was truly loved and truly happy.
So please, stay just as you are, even in your grief.
Be proud of that love.
And trust that, little by little, you will find your way back to daily life.
It still hurts. You still feel lonely. You still want to see them.
But by honoring those feelings, I believe that one day, you’ll also be able to rediscover joy and happiness again.