Here are some of the problems people send to Van Der Wan for advice.
This time’s theme is:
“How long should I wait to get another pet after losing my last one?”
I’m sure people have a variety of opinions on this matter.
Some people may think so.
And there are also opinions like this.
One of the most difficult consultations is how to deal with differences of opinion within a family.
People who want to keep a pet but their family is against it.
On the other hand, there are people who are still feeling distressed when their family starts keeping a new pet.
At times like these, memorial goods can help bridge the gap between family members.
(More details to come later)
And, even though I was nervous at first, I accepted the new baby.
I recovered from the loss of my pet
There are people who say,
Also,
More happy pets
It is also true.
So, to our customers and experts
How long do you keep them apart?
What prompted you to start keeping your next pet?
We asked about the following:
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How long until you get your next pet
While we make pet memorial items, we also receive consultations from customers who have lost their pets.
Sometimes we are asked how long it will take to get another pet.
To get straight to the point, the length of time it takes to be able to accept another pet varies from person to person, and opinions seem to differ even within families.
The appropriate period varies from person to person.
When you’re still in the early stages of your career, some people may think it’s too early or that it’s inappropriate.
However, I’ve come to think that these are just differences in personal values and not something I need to worry too much about.
Is a week later too early?
So a year later would be okay?
Standards vary from person to person.
It’s not right to treat a life carelessly or just want a substitute, but if you’re sure you’ll love your next child properly, I don’t think the number of days is an issue.
People who accept pets immediately after their death
Many of our customers already have a new pet when they place their order.
It seems like everyone was depressed when they placed their order, but after the delivery,
“I want to be careful not to get scratched by the new pet.”
It is said that…
Some have been accepted in less than a month.
Such customers say:
It seems that they place their orders with that mindset.
It seems like my pet has come home. He is already hugging her and talking to her.
I want to display it somewhere out of reach so that my new pet won’t get caught by it. Ordered item: Cushion
(a customer who recently started keeping a cat)
I still cherish the time I spend hugging the cushion and feeling the warmth of my late cat. But it’s nice to have the presence of a cat in the house. Ordered item: Cushion
There are other cases like this too.
One customer cried as she told us her memories when she ordered, and by the time the product was delivered, she had already gotten another pet.
I’m sure the new additions will be very happy living in an animal-loving home.
Start keeping them when you have a connection
Sometimes customers who were very upset when they placed their order contact us at a later date.
The content is as follows.
If you receive such a message
“You’re feeling better now.”
I think that and it makes me happy too.
The length of time varies, but generally people start keeping them within a year.
When I said goodbye to my cat, I began to feel better after about 2-3 months.
If you have a good encounter at such a time , it might help you become more positive.
Sometimes there are disagreements within the family
We sometimes receive inquiries like this from customers.
This situation can be a bit tough.
When welcoming a new life into your home, it is best for the whole family to have a proper discussion and be on the same page before starting to care for the pet.
We have received feedback like this from our customers.
beloved dog passed away, the whole family felt lonely at first. But within a month, his daughter bought a similar dog of the same breed, and his wife was the only one in the family who could not accept it. Hoping to do something about it, we had a cushion made for his beloved dog that had passed away. When his daughters saw it, they cried and welcomed it, and it seemed that his wife realized that they still cherished their beloved dog. I think we were able to clear up the misunderstanding.
Product ordered: Knitted cushion
The opportunity to welcome another pet
Thank you for all your help at that time. I’m grateful for all the advice you gave me. About half a year after you made the cushion, I found a kitten crying on the company grounds and decided to take it in. It looks a lot like Yuki, but has a tomboyish personality (lol). I thought I would never have another cat… It’s painful to compare it to Yuki, but I find this kitten soothing. Product ordered: Knitted cushion (sample is our Maro)
ご注文商品：ニットのクッション（見本は我が家のマロ）
This customer looked very sad when she placed her order, and said that she couldn’t imagine having any other cat. But I’m happy to hear such a story. It’s true that while she’s sad about losing her pet, she’s also feeling comforted by her new cat. For more details, see the bottom of the page.
The good things about having a new pet
Here are some stories we’ve heard from our customers.
Getting a new pet helps you deal with your lost pet
First, let me tell you about myself.
I lost my beloved dog in 2007 and thought I would never have another pet. However, seven years later in 2014, I was fortunate enough to become a foster parent for a cat.
After that, my feelings changed.
It made me think of my beloved dog who had passed away.
I later realized that the dog looked very similar to my beloved dog Mukku, who passed away in 2007.
On the left is Mukku, who I used to keep, and on the right is Sora, who I keep now.
Although the color may appear different depending on the light, both have jet black fur with curls on their ears that look like they have been tousled.
Feeding him and taking care of his litter box reminds me of when Mukku was little.
Sometimes you can see him behaving in a similar way to Mukku.
I never feel sad about it, and I look at it as a happy memory.
Rather than comparing the two, I appreciate the good points of each and enjoy each day.
Others have found that getting a new pet like this helps them feel closer to their lost pet.
The loneliness is alleviated
This is something we often hear from our customers, but having other children around helps ease the feeling of loneliness.
You have to feed them, take them to the toilet, and if they’re dogs, take them for walks, so you can’t just cry all the time.
And spending time playing with my pets is very relaxing.
Of course, there will still be some loneliness, but it feels many times better than being alone.
It heals the wounds of the heart
From customer K.
For me, cats always help me feel better when I’m feeling down.
The same is true when it comes to the pain of losing a pet, and having a new one on the way can be a great source of emotional support.
I sometimes see the image of my deceased child, but my new child has her own charm and interacts with me, and we have started a new life. I still feel sad about my deceased child, but I am happy now.
Opinions of people who thought it was good
People who are happy to adopt a new pet after their pet dies seem to find great support and healing from their new pet.
A new life has begun and you have taken the next step.
But at the same time, it doesn’t seem like the pain has disappeared. It just seems like I can live happily even though I’m in pain.
Some people say they were soothed by the cushion that they wanted to keep one.
I have also been asked to design two pets, one that has passed away and one that the owner has recently adopted.
We take everyone’s thoughts into consideration and continue to work hard on our creations today.
The warmth of knitwear will help you feel positive.
People who have adopted a new pet but are still in pain
Comparing the new baby to the pet in heaven
I was talking to a customer on the phone.
Apparently, the cat for which she had made cushions several times had passed away, leaving her feeling sad about her pet’s death.
A few months later, they were fortunate enough to be able to adopt a new cat, but even with the new pet, the loss of their pet continues .
In particular, there are times when she compares her child to the previous one, and when she does, she feels sorry for the child in front of her and ends up hating herself.
” But it’s also true that kids today can help.”
He also said.
If you are thinking of adopting another pet, it may be best to refrain from getting a pet just to escape the pain of losing your pet. It is best to wait until you have properly faced the new pet, loved it, and decided that you want to live with it before adopting another pet.
Feelings of guilt and not being able to love your new pet
What is the difference between people who keep the following pets and those who don’t?
What is the difference between people who can quickly adopt another pet and those who can’t?
I think it’s because of past experiences.
Many people who have had a bad experience caring for a pet say they can no longer keep one.
Others decide to adopt a pet because they want to once again feel the joy and happiness that comes from having a pet.
If I get a new pet, does that mean I’ve forgotten the one I lost?
Because the dead child will be jealous, because the dead child will feel sorry for them.
Some people are confused for that reason.
But don’t worry.
You’ve probably never heard of a pet owner forgetting about their dead pet.
Although sometimes people misunderstand that they have forgotten, owners remember their pets for the rest of their lives and keep the pain of parting in their hearts.
Don’t worry, the child who passed away is not jealous or pitiful in the slightest.
I’m sure I feel much more grateful for the time we spent together.
That’s the feeling I get when I listen to customer consultations.
I feel that these people’s pets are truly happy.
I can’t think of anyone other than My Pet
We also receive consultations like this.
“I can’t think of anyone other than my deceased ___. But will getting another puppy make her feel better?”
This is a very difficult question.
Even in the same situation, it will be different for each person, and I think you won’t really know until you actually try keeping one.
But there is something I want you to be careful about.
This means that life is not a substitute.
Please be aware that the new life will have a different personality.
References
Things to keep in mind when adopting a new pet after the death of a pet
People who want a substitute pet and people who feel their pet is unique.
Pet loss: Will getting another pet make me feel better? – the question and my feelings
Everyone has different ways of thinking
Everyone lives with different ways of thinking.
There are people who work at pet shops and veterinary clinics who start raising new dogs or cats as soon as their current pet dies. They know the limit of what they can take in, and when they have the time, they take in and care for as many animals as possible.
They say:
“If you can keep a pet, financially or in terms of your home environment, please do so. And while you’re making your pets happy, you’ll also be happy yourself.”
If you want to keep a pet, then go ahead and keep one, but if you feel like it’s not quite right yet then you can just stop for now.
It’s fine for each person to have different opinions. And it would be great if everyone could respect each other’s opinions.
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Pet loss: Will getting another pet make me feel better? – the question and my feelings
Things to keep in mind when adopting a new pet after the death of a pet
Families who can no longer care for another pet after their first one dies
The conflict of having another pet after the death of a pet
Pet loss/the reason for getting another pet