Losing a pet is one of the most painful experiences for any animal lover. Almost everyone who has gone through it has felt the deep sadness and emptiness that comes with saying goodbye.
However, there is a difference between those who experience temporary grief and those who fall into prolonged pet loss grief that impacts daily life. Why does pet bereavement affect some people so severely? Understanding these reasons can provide valuable insights into how to cope with pet loss and eventually begin healing.
When Pet Loss Becomes Overwhelming
Strong Emotional Dependence on the Pet
For those who lived alone or relied on their pet as their main emotional support, the loss can feel unbearable. Pets often become best friends, listeners, and even sources of daily comfort during stressful times. When that unconditional support disappears, it may feel impossible to imagine life without them.
If you find yourself feeling lost or unsure how to move forward, try talking with others who share similar experiences. Pet loss support groups or a trusted friend can help you process your grief.
Self-Blame and Guilt
Many grieving pet owners blame themselves—believing they failed to notice an illness, or feeling responsible for an accident. This heavy guilt can trap them in endless regret.
If you’re struggling with these feelings, remember that no one is a “bad pet parent” for not being able to prevent the inevitable. Finding ways to forgive yourself is an important step toward healing from pet grief.
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Sudden and Unexpected Death
One of the hardest situations is when a pet dies suddenly—whether from an illness that progressed unnoticed or from a tragic accident. With no time to prepare emotionally, the shock can make acceptance extremely difficult.
It’s common in such cases to replay the “what ifs,” but it’s important to acknowledge that you did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time.
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Not Being Able to Say Goodbye
When a pet passes away while you’re away on a trip, or during a sudden health decline after being reassured by a vet, the regret can be devastating. Many owners wish they had been there in the final moments.
This is why some families now choose home care, ensuring their pet spends their last days surrounded by love. Being able to say goodbye at home often provides comfort and closure.
Difficulty Accepting the Loss
Even when we logically understand that pets have a limited lifespan, emotionally we may struggle to accept it. Longing to “go back in time” or wishing to see them again can create a painful cycle of despair.
It’s important to allow yourself space to grieve, but also to seek small ways to honor their memory—through keepsakes, rituals, or even creating a pet memorial.
When Coping With Pet Loss Is Easier
Not everyone who loses a pet suffers long-term grief. This doesn’t mean they loved their pets any less. Instead, certain mindsets and circumstances can help them heal faster.
Having Prepared for the Goodbye
Some pet owners who experienced long-term illness were able to prepare mentally for the farewell. Choosing to focus on their pet’s comfort rather than prolonging suffering often helped them feel peace after the loss.
Allowing Themselves to Cry
Tears are healing. Many people say that after they finally allowed themselves to cry—sometimes triggered by receiving a pet memorial gift—they felt lighter and more at peace.
Finding Distraction Through Daily Life
For some, work or responsibilities provided a healthy distraction from overwhelming grief. In my own case, when I lost my beloved dog Muku, I was busy making custom knit cushions and blankets for clients. I believed that creating these pet memorial items was a way to honor Muku’s spirit.
Healing From Pet Loss Takes Time
Grieving the death of a pet is natural, but staying in prolonged grief is painful for both you and the memory of your beloved companion.
Through my daily work—listening to pet owners’ stories while creating personalized memorial gifts made from knitting—I’ve learned that every journey through grief is unique.
If you’re struggling, know that you are not alone. Explore different approaches to coping with pet bereavement, and find what brings you comfort—whether it’s talking, crying, creating, or simply remembering.
Your pet’s love will always stay with you, and taking steps toward healing is the greatest way to honor that bond.
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