Hello , this is Miasa from japan.
Today I would like to share my experience with all of you who are struggling with pet loss.
Today’s theme is,
“When I stopped recovering from pet loss.”
I want to get better, so why is it okay to stay the way I am?
Why don’t I cheer up?
You might think that.
But when I feel lonely, I try not to push myself too hard.
deal with current feelings
I learned the importance of facing my current feelings.
The trigger was the word mindfulness.
When I feel mentally exhausted, I try to focus on what I am feeling.
For example, the taste of the food I eat, the smell of the wind, the sounds I hear…
Find something pleasant among them and focus on feelings like
delicious
comfortable
soothing.
That alone can make you feel more positive.
When you’re suffering from pet loss
There are times when I remember having to say goodbye to my pet and feel overwhelmed with loneliness and regret.
At times like those, I try to concentrate.
Does the breeze feel nice?
Should I try some sweets?
It’s true that there are times when I feel a little better.
At those times, I feel a little better and my spirit is revived.
But there are times when I just can’t feel well.
The feelings I have at those times are the subject of today’s discussion.
When I stop recovering from pet loss
Even when I try to practice mindfulness, there are times when I don’t feel positive.
I may feel positive for a moment, but soon the loneliness and regret return.
When I think of Maro (the cat in the photo), who we lost to illness, I am overcome with regret, feelings of guilt, and many other emotions.
At times like those, I try not to force myself to be cheerful.
I believe that when I can’t recover from loneliness, it’s because the cats are nearby.
If trying mindfulness doesn’t work, I’ll stop trying for now.
Maybe Maro is nearby somewhere, watching me from the back of the closet.
Or maybe he’s worried about me and wants to cheer me up.
Once I get better, Maro will go back to heaven.
Pet loss is not something you can get over.
The pain of losing a pet remains with me ever since.
Sometimes I cry, and am overcome with feelings of guilt.
I also remember my dog Mukku, who I had to say goodbye to over 10 years ago (in 2007).
These feelings have continued like this for years, and I think I will continue to live with these feelings for the rest of my life.
At the same time, I can now smile, and laugh when I remember my pets who have passed away.
There are times when I feel all these different emotions inside me and it helps me to be positive, but when I’m feeling down I don’t want to push myself and I think it’s important to take a day to take a break from trying to cheer myself up.
Example of work
Memories of pets, knitted with yarn
Creator: Toshiyuki Miasa
I knit yarn to make pet memorial items.
Almost every day, I work hard on my creations while listening to the stories of customers who have lost their pets.
